‘Thank you’ can save ‘do’, study concludes


Whether it’s a simple “thank you” or a more heartfelt compliment, making an effort to express gratitude in a marriage has been shown to make the relationship stronger.

Appreciation in relationships increases satisfaction, commitment and resilience, and can protect couples from stress and arguments, according to new research from the University of Illinois. One Allen Burton says even couples facing a lot of stress can see the benefits of gratitude.

“Not all couples are great communicators,” says Barton. “Some people are feeling more financial stress than others, but there are other things couples can do to keep their relationships strong even in the midst of such difficulties. A sincere thank you goes a long way.”

According to Burton, gratitude isn’t just about saying thank you, it’s also about, “How do I inspire gratitude?” or “Are there areas that you feel are under-appreciated?”

The study, which took 15 months to complete, documented the effects of gratitude on 316 low-income African-American couples in rural Georgia. The results of this study were 2015 survey According to Barton, who investigated mostly white middle-income couples.

“This is a topic that applies across ethnicity and race,” Burton said.

According to Burton, financial stress was one of the biggest external stressors for couples. However, couples were found to experience external and internal stress in their relationships from childcare, in-laws, time management, and factors beyond their control.

According to Burton, individuals tend to overestimate the work they do and underestimate the work of their partners. said that he had urged him to look into this topic.

“She made a really insightful comment that when a couple struggles, it’s rarely about who does what, and puts more emphasis on giving and receiving gratitude,” Burton said.

Burton continued, “Even if the division of labor is not as evenly divided as they would like, as long as individuals feel appreciated by their partners, they still report high levels of relationship quality. .”

Struggling couples are often puzzled when asked to list things their partner has done in the past week that they are grateful for, Burton says, while stronger couples usually , many things can be mentioned.

With the holiday season approaching and more and more people practicing gratitude, Burton said it should be done all year round, not just one season.


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Written by Natalia Chi

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