Dear Abby: This is a response to “Living a Soap Opera” (January 3rd) of an unfortunate woman married to an alcoholic. She’s honored by her three young men conversing online. In my experience, if a man tells you he’s in a remote military or ship or some other place you can’t see him and you fall in love with him instantly, it’s likely a scam.
I’m not saying this to hurt her feelings or to deflate her ego, just to be on the safe side. Vulnerable people are easily fooled in this way. Sadly, I know this from experience and just wanted to draw your attention to it. – Thank you for understanding
Dear Thanks: Many readers saw a red flag in the “Living’s” letter. Some readers noted that the “in the army” scenario was a common scenario. “Living” should do as much research as possible about “catfish fishing” and scams of this nature and never send money for any reason. She encourages her to attend and seek out local activity groups to add positivity to her life.
Dear Abby: I have been with my husband for 10 years. Last year his brother’s baby mama passed away and we are stuck raising his brother’s 11 year old son.I told her husband I didn’t want to do it but her husband didn’t listen does not have My youngest is 28 years old. I think he chooses this over our marriage. advice? — After Parenting in South Carolina
Dear Parents: This should not be a unilateral decision. Why is the boy’s father not ready to raise a son? Are there other relatives, such as your in-laws, who can intervene? If so, make it clear upfront that since you raised the child, he does the heavy lifting for his nephew, such as cooking, washing, supervising homework, and attending school meetings. and not you. That poor boy deserves to grow up in a loving and welcoming home, so make an effort to be kind to him.
Dear Abby: A few years ago my father gave my mother a mink coat and a gold and diamond necklace. Shortly thereafter, he left her for another woman. Her mother gave me the coat and necklace because she didn’t wear them. She passed away a few years ago and now needs the money the necklace might bring for her medical bills.Is it wrong to sell? Her daughter doesn’t want me to, but I don’t think she knows everything. — Letting go in Virginia
Dear let go: I need the money for the necklace, so please sell it. And when you do, explain to your daughter that while she may think of the necklace as a treasured heirloom from her grandmother, it is a truly painful reminder of betrayal and needs to be taken down now if necessary. please.
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