Dear Abby: I want to be more than friends with my friend and her husband


Dear Abby: A woman in her early 50s who has been divorced twice. I may sound like a bad person, but I’m really kind and conservative. I just make bad choices when it comes to men.

A few years ago I met a woman who became my best friend. she is happily married. She and her husband are empty nesters like me. We socialize a lot, and when we do, there’s a definite chemistry between the three of us.

I recently heard the concept of “thru pull”. This is about adults who agree to live together like any other couple, except it’s her three instead of two. My friend, her husband, and I can’t help but wonder if we can make a good thrupull. This is not the time to rush into anything. We have known each other for several years and have established trust and compatibility.

I’m nervous to bring this up because I don’t want our friendship to be in jeopardy. I think it’s mutual. I don’t like being single and the thought of dating gives me hives. What should I do? — West found the right one

Dear Discovery: Carefully consider which makes hives worse. After two divorces, you are in a position to make smarter decisions about men in the future, unless you are willing to risk stepping into the dating pool.

Even if this couple likes you, it’s entirely possible that they aren’t keen on the idea of ​​a threesome. Suggesting what you’re thinking could sour your relationship with either or both of them. Unless you can hypothetically find a way to nonchalantly gauge their reaction to “slurpling” in the middle of a conversation, let me share a little wisdom that’s worked for me.

Dear Abby: Our daughter’s husband is not bonding with the youngest child. He neither hugs nor plays with her, and rarely acknowledges her existence. When our daughter learned to face her problems through therapy, he admitted that he felt nothing for his child.

In fact, he doesn’t pay much attention to his three-year-old. He prefers playing video games to interacting with his kids and wife. As far as we know, he is not physically abusive towards his children or our daughter, but he is definitely verbally abusive.

Having been a victim of abuse myself, I know very well that verbal abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse, and can in fact be a precursor to physical abuse. Or do we have to watch our precious girls starve for affection from their fathers? — Be conscious in Texas

Dear: You can’t force your son-in-law to be a better parent or husband, but you can encourage your daughter to continue treatment. It may give her the strength to end the marriage.In the meantime, continue to love her grandchildren and provide positive encouragement and support so they can learn what a healthy relationship looks like. Give them all the attention they deserve.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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