Dan Lyons, author of “STFU,” recounts his call to stop talking and listen more.


Our commentary is by New York Times bestselling author Dan Lyons. “STFU: The power to keep your mouth shut in an endlessly noisy world” (Henry Holt) is a call to stop talking and listen more…

Everyone who talks too much gets into trouble sooner or later. It may offend or offend someone. You may lose your job or destroy a relationship.

I’m an overtalker at heart, so I know. We also know how hard it is to break a habit.

Part of the reason is that our tendency to overtalk is hardwired into our brains and we can’t change it.But also we are effectively force you Talk too much.


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Social media is designed to let you post, share, like, and comment. And somehow we’ve come to believe that success is measured by the ability to get attention.

It was ridiculous. Look at Steve Jobs. He wasn’t on Twitter at all.he had zero follower. what was his worth? zero?

In fact, the most powerful and successful people speak the following They listen better than others. They speak purposefully. And they understand the power of silence.

Barack Obama is one of the greatest speakers of all time, but he’s an even better listener. Richard Branson is a billionaire entrepreneur who shows off a lot in public but mostly takes notes at meetings. Anna Wintour is one of the most influential figures in the world of media and fashion and is known for her quiet demeanor. No one knows what’s going on behind the sunglasses.

I have found that talking less can be beneficial in almost every aspect of life. You might get a promotion or negotiate a better salary. You will almost certainly be a better parent and partner.

The best thing is that you don’t just improve your own life. Improve the lives of those around you.

There are thousands of books and classes that teach you how to become a fluent speaker. What we really need to learn is how to shut up.

Read excerpt: “STFU: The Power to Stay Silent in an Endlessly Loud World” by Dan Lyons

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Story produced by Aria Shavelson. Editor: Chad Cardin.


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